'cause for the first time in forever
i could be noticed by someone!
You’re welcome :)
it’s not a double standard. it’s called reclaiming a slur. it’s empowering for the people who reclaim it, but when oppressors use it, it’s still harmful because of the historical context.
the only way people would think it’s ok to use that word is if they’re not listening to all of the people who say it’s not ok to use that word. if they’re ignoring the voices of black people who say “if you’re not black and you say the n-word, that’s racist” then… they’re being racist.
the only people who can reclaim slurs are the people who those slurs have been used against, because when the oppressors use those slurs, whether or not they’re using it in a positive context, the slurs are still harmful because they have always been used by oppressors to put the oppressed down.
[2/2] and that fact upsets me. Is it allowed to? Is there even anything I can do? I don’t want to benefit, I don’t want people different to me to be denied basic human rights because of those differences.
it’s not really a matter of are you allowed to or not allowed to, because nobody can stop you from being upset by it. but you do need to be careful how you express it, because there’s a fine line between feeling upset by it, and white guilt (or straight guilt). the thing is, if you’re not oppressed, no one particularly cares if the oppression makes you feel guilty, because your guilt helps no one. so when you speak about it, when you speak about oppression that you don’t experience, just make sure what you’re saying is “i’m upset that this happens to people because it is unjust” not “i’m upset that this happens to people because it makes me feel bad for being straight/white”.
what you can do is acknowledge when your voice is not needed or welcome in a discussion, use your voice in discussions where it is, and call out your fellow straight and/or white people when you catch their problematic behaviors.
i don’t think i’m someone because i have 31,000 followers, like i literally said that’s not how i think of myself and that’s not how i feel about my follower count. and like, just because i talk about racism and sexism and queerphobia and stuff like that doesn’t mean i’m not well aware of, and deeply concerned about what you seem to think is more important.
also i think i know a thing or two about sexism and queerphobia because i am a woman and i’m queer. i think i know a thing or two about racism because i listen to people who experience racism. not just because i “have read a few articles and blogs”, as if 1) a few isn’t an enormous understatement, 2) there aren’t tons and tons of people who dedicate their lives to studying oppression in an academic, professional context, and 3) articles and blogs are somehow unimportant.
i know there is a big wide world outside of america, like i’m not fucking stupid so please don’t talk to me like i am. what i choose to talk about the most does not mean that i am ignorant of what’s happening in the rest of the world. also, other countries’ struggles are not your “stop talking about oppression” trump card. you don’t get to use them to try to get me to stop talking about how oppression affects me and tons of other people. they deserve so much better than that.
exactly. if someone calls you oppressive, especially if the person calling you oppressive is part of that oppressed group, and your first instinct is to say “i’m not oppressive” instead of “how can i stop being oppressive”, then you are definitely part of the problem. and you are definitely exactly as racist/sexist/queerphobic/etc etc as they said you are
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i mean i don’t want to make it sound like i think the amount of followers i have gives me any kind of superiority or anything, but i just think it’s so funny when people feel like they have to let me know they’re unfollowing, like the fact that this one person is unfollowing me is going to make me ~change my hateful ways~ or whatever
but it’s like, ok i just lost one follower but i still have over 31,000 left, and by the end of the day i’ll have more than i started with sooooooo you’re unfollowing me, what’s your point??? what am i supposed to do with this information???? it is completely impossible to care about followers coming or going at this point
calling someone an oppressor is not hate. if you think it’s “hate” to acknowledge that some people have more power in society than i do, and that they directly benefit from that power while it harms me, then i don’t care if you’re leaving. actually i don’t care why anyone unfollows for any reason so i don’t know why you’d even tell me, you’re wasting your time lmao bye
if being called an oppressor is the worst thing that can happen to you as a result of oppression, consider how very lucky you are. it’s not being mean, it’s pointing out a fact. once everybody stops acting like calling someone an oppressor or saying someone benefits from oppression is an insult, then maybe we can actually get somewhere with ending that oppression.